• {Planning Tips} 5 Traditions You Can (or Should) Skip

    Traditions can be great, but not all wedding traditions are necessary, or even meaningful, in today’s weddings.  The thing that is important in a tradition is that it means something to you. So don’t do the traditional wedding vows if they hold no personal meaning for you – write your own!  Or if your father isn’t in your life for whatever reason, don’t feel like you have to have someone give you away.  You do the things that feel right and make you happy on your wedding day.

    Here are some old traditions that no one miss, and a couple that I think are outdated and awkward.

    5 Traditions You Can (or Should) Skip from Oh Lovely Day | having a bride's side and a groom's side

    1.  Having a Bride’s Side and a Groom’s Side
    While the idea of having your friends and family on your “side” doesn’t bother me (at least you’ll know where to look for your peeps) I also love the idea of letting people sit wherever they want for your ceremony.  And it eliminates the need for ushers, which I also think are totally unnecessary (also unnecessary: guestbook attendants.)

    2.  Doing a Receiving Line
    Don’t ever make your guests stand in a line at your wedding if you can avoid it, and NEVER do it unless it is for food or a drink.  The receiving line is pointless and a waste of time.  After you and your husband eat your dinner, just walk around to all of the tables and quickly greet and thank your guests. This allows your guests to be comfortable and you and your spouse to have more time to dance the night away!

    5 Traditions You Can (or Should) Skip from Oh Lovely Day | giving favors
    3.  Giving Favors
    Can you remember any of the wedding favors you’ve received at a wedding?  I bet most of you will say no.  While favors can be a fun way to include your personalities or identities into your wedding details, they aren’t necessary and probably won’t be missed.  Don’t feel comfortable skipping them altogether?  Do something extra that your guests can enjoy – like a candy or dessert bar – and put out cute paper bags to take some home too.  Or do a charity donation in lieu of favors.  I love the way it was done in the photo above.

    4.  Bouquet Toss
    First of all, you probably paid at least $150 (or more!) for that bouquet and it is gorgeous.  Would you just toss money around like that?  Of course not.  Secondly, and more importantly, it can be humiliating.  Not for you, the bride, but for the single ladies that are shoved onto the dance floor and probably forced to smile while they are told they could be “the next lucky one to get married” if they catch that bouquet.  As a girl who was a bridesmaid 8 times before I got engaged and have been to more weddings than I remember, I speak from experience.  No, not everyone feels that way.  Yes, some people love the bouquet toss.  But some people just do it because “it is what people do” and if that is the case, I think you can do without it.

    5 Traditions You Can (or Should) Skip from Oh Lovely Day | The Garter Toss

    5.  Garter Toss
    I am a firm believer that you should wear a pretty garter on your wedding day, and you should leave it on for your husband to find on your wedding night.  Do not, I beg you, do a garter toss during your reception.  The first word I think of when someone says “garter toss” is yuck.  Or maybe it’s gross.  Definitely awkward.  I mean, come on – who wants to sit there while all of your guests watch your husband creep up your gown to remove your garter (the really lovely ones do it with their teeth!) YUCK.  This is definitely a tradition to, well, toss.  Wear a pretty garter, have photos of it taken, pass it down as an heirloom or something blue.  But please do not toss it.So what do you think of these traditions you can skip?  Do you agree or disagree?  Are there others you would add to the list?  I’d love to hear!

    {photo credits} Stacy Kokes via The Sweetest Occasion / Rebecca Hansen Weddings via Ruffled / photo by Jennifer Roper and garter by The Garter Girl from my wedding

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      Posted May 25 at 10:02 pm | Permalink

      I agree with everything but the receiving line. My opinion – spend the 20 minutes doing the line so you can ensure that you personally get to thank every person who spent time and money traveling to celebrate YOU and your betrothed. Doing the table visiting instead results in not getting enough time to eat, not getting enough time to dance, and not ensuring that you thank everyone who comes, which is important. After dinner you will be distracted, people will be competing for your attention, you will want to dance, and people may leave before you get to them.

      Just my opinion, but skipping the receiving line is lazy and selfish. Spend the 20 minutes or so to give all your guests the attention they deserve, then the rest of the night is yours to enjoy – no need to be hanging in the back of the room with your chatty great uncle talking about your third cousin removed when you could be dancing instead!

      • Posted Jun 6 at 10:00 pm | Permalink

        That’s a good point. But as a guest at many many weddings, the receiving line was one of my least favorite parts too. You just stand in line for what feels like ages to see the couple. Instead, go get a cocktail and mingle and let the couple come around to you. But that’s just my preference. Each couple should do what feels right for them.

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