Ok, here’s the real deal about sex on your wedding night: almost no one does it! Shocking, I know. I’ll never forget when the first of my girlfriends confessed to me that she and her new husband didn’t have sex the night of their wedding. I couldn’t believe it. And then I heard it from another friend. And another. By then I started to realize it was more than just a fluke – it was the norm.
More than likely, you and your new husband are both exhausted, hot & sweaty, drunk, or a combination of the three. By the time you retire to your “honeymoon suite” you’re ready to pass out. But if you really want to have sex on your wedding night, you can do it. I did! Here are a few tips to making it happen.
Tip 1: Don’t stay out at the wedding after-party with your wedding guests till 5 am. And don’t get completely wasted. It’s totally ok to party, stay out till 5 am, and get wasted. But you won’t have sex. Pick your fun.
Tip 2: If you do want to meet up with your guests at an after-party, or stay out late partying, excuse yourself for a bit after the wedding and before you meet up with everyone to get out of your wedding clothes. While you’re out of them, have sex. Then go party. Problem solved. Oh, and being in a rush to meet up with everyone might make it even hotter…
Tip 3: When you get to your room, take a romantic bath or shower (preferably together). It will make you feel less disgusting from all of that dancing and drinking and will wake you up a bit. Then slip into that sexy lingerie you bought for your wedding night and get busy. You might not feel like it at the start, but you’ll be into it pretty soon. And that lesson is good practice for later, if/when you have kids and you often have to make yourselves have sex when you can, whether you’re into it at that moment or not.
Tip 4: Be ok with the fact that you might not have sex on your wedding night. It’s not that big of a deal – you have the rest of your lives together. Plus, there’s always morning-after-wedding sex… And that’s why I don’t believe in organized day-after brunches.