• Should You Do A First Look?

    modern rustic Condor's Nest Ranch Wedding | Green Ribbon Party Planning Co & Swoon by Katie

    We’ve talked about “first looks” before, but this photo from a past Condor’s Nest Ranch wedding from Swoon By Katie, makes me want to revisit the idea of first looks.

    I’m so torn.  As a bride, I really wanted to wait to see my groom, but as a blogger I totally get why it can be such a good idea.  Brides who didn’t do one swear by sticking to tradition, and brides who do look don’t regret seeing each other before the ceremony.  Photographers love them.  So who’s right?  Here’s my two cents: 

    A first look can serve several purposes, the obvious being that you get more photos out of the way before the ceremony so you have more time after for other photos and mingling with your guests.  It also helps you get over any pre-wedding jitters, major bouts of tears, and lets you get a makeup touch up from those tears.  Plus, the first look makes for some great photos.

    Here is why I didn’t do a first look: Seeing my husband at the end of the aisle for the first time on our wedding day was the absolute best moment of my wedding, maybe of my life (until I had a baby).  Of course I didn’t know that when I made the decision not to do one, but both my husband and I agreed we wanted to wait to see each other.  That anticipation, that seeing each other in front of all of our friends and family and not seeing anyone else but each other in that moment, and that joy was priceless.  Plus, it led to this:

    {I love the look of anticipation as he is seeing me round the corner}

    Now, I’ve seen a lot of great “first look” emotional shots too.  That shot is one of my all-time favorites.  I think the first time you see each other is going to be emotional, but I love that ours was part of the ceremony.

    But there are some fabulous first look photos to be had as well. Case in point:

    Should You Do A First Look? | Zoom Theory via Oh Lovely DayShould You Do A First Look? | Andrew Jade via Oh Lovely DayShould You Do A First Look | Love & Perry via Oh Lovely Day

    So, what do you think?  Say yes to a first look or wait till the ceremony?  I’d love to hear what you did or plan to do in your wedding or which you like to see best.  Chime in!

    {photo credits} top photo: Swoon by Katie / middle set by Jennifer Roper from my wedding / Zoom Theory originally seen here / Andrew Jade originally seen here / Love & Perry originally seen here /

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    2 Comments

    1. Megan H.
      Posted Jun 3 at 5:57 am | Permalink

      Being raised in the South, I wanted a very tradition wedding and the mention of a first-look made me cringe. HOWEVER, my photographers (after much coaxing) talked me into it. I do not regret it for one second. We still had an intimate moment as I was walking down the aisle AND we got to share the “first-look” just between the two of us. It was so special. I highly recommend them, even if you are a “traditional” bride… I am as traditional as they come! 🙂

      Here is the blog from our photographers about our special day! Enjoy. 🙂

      http://jplusaphotography.com/meganlovesmichael/

    2. Brie
      Posted Jun 4 at 12:15 pm | Permalink

      I am so happy we did the first look! It helped calm our nerves and gave us some time before for just us (and our photographers), while also giving us the chance to get amazing photos. And even though we already saw each other, it in no way dampened the emotion we both felt as I walked down the aisle. Actually, neither of us cried during our first look, but both of us got misty-eyed during the ceremony, because it’s not what you look like that brings that emotion, it’s the commitment your making and the realness of that moment.

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