• Getting Ready for a Second Baby

    second baby maternity photos | Jennifer Roper Photography | Oh Lovely Day

    If you don’t follow me on social media but have noticed a lack of posts lately, I should probably mention that I’m about ready to have a second baby in the next 2-4 weeks (feels like 2-4 days!) My second pregnancy has been the complete opposite of my first, aside from the fact that I’m bringing another baby boy into our family. My first pregnancy came so easy –  I felt great, worked as a lawyer full time, and blogged in my free time. This time has been so much harder. It was way harder to get pregnant, I was terribly sick for the first 18-20 weeks, had about 4 good weeks, and then have been sick and uncomfortable the rest of the time. Now I work as a blogger full time (though I can barely manage 2 posts a week) and a full time momma to a very active 3 year old. During my first pregnancy I wrote a blog for my unborn baby, sharing love letters and updates and funny stories along the way. Like a typical second child, this baby has gotten none of that. Sometimes I feel like he’s only heard me say “Boy, am I tired. I am so ready to be done.” And then I feel guilty for complaining and feeling that way.

    I am also anxious about adding another person to our family and changing our dynamic forever. I’m a little sad that it won’t just be us and Charlie, even though I’m super excited about meeting this new little guy too. I hope Charlie remembers at least a little bit about his first 3 1/2 years of life where it was just him, his daddy, and me. We spent so much time together, more than most families get. And I feel so lucky for that. I know it will be wonderful once the new baby is here and that I will love him as much as I love Charlie, but right now it is hard to think of anything but how the new baby will change things with my first baby. And then I feel guilty for feeling that way too.

    In the coming weeks I may post a little less. I may not respond to emails. And then I’ll share some guest posts from some sweet friends who have been kind enough to write something to help me take a little time off once baby is here. And I hope you’ll understand that I’m just one person, who is trying to balance being a momma with running a business alone, and also making a little time for my husband and myself. Actual balance is impossible, but if anything in that list is going to take a hit, it has to be this blog. And I hope you understand that I can’t feel guilty about that. Even though I do.

    And if you are curious as to what I’m up to during any silence on this blog, you can find me on instagram where I’ll still be posting as much as I can.

    I’d love to hear thoughts from my fellow parents on welcoming a second baby to the family. Any tips for preparing your older kiddo or on making that first introduction? Or about anything at all really – I’d love to hear what worked (or didn’t work) for you. Any encouragement and advice is welcomed 🙂

    Above photo is of me and my boys by Jennifer Roper Photography. Jennifer Roper is a handpicked member of our Lovely Vendor Guide. If you would like to be considered for our guide, apply here.

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    1. Caitlyn
      Posted Jul 21 at 8:42 am | Permalink

      Don’t feel guilty AT ALL about keeping up with the blog during this time. (Easier said than done, I’m sure.) I think your priorities are right where they should be; with your family. Take as much time as you need to relax and enjoy your newest addition. Your blog, and your readers, will be here when you get back.

    2. Posted Jul 21 at 8:58 am | Permalink

      I’m a few weeks behind you with luke and it’s certainly understandable for the disappearing act! enjoy your new addition and the second one will definitely make his place in your loving home! Prayers for an easy delivery. xo-jeni

    3. Posted Jul 21 at 11:08 am | Permalink

      Omgoodness so exciting for new baby! Praying it goes by fast 🙂 I have been meaning to send in some of my posts but have held off for a reason I see 😉 ill bombard you stuff in a couple weeks. If you get curious and want to look at squishy babies, the website link will take ya 😀

    4. Molly Dodin
      Posted Jul 21 at 6:06 pm | Permalink

      Hi! I just wanted to share that I so understand what you are saying about worrying about your relationship with your first changing. I was very anxious about that when pregnant with my second boy and honestly, although I loved him instantly, it took about a month for my anxiety around my first son to wear off. I’m happy to report that once I got used to our new dynamic I realized that not only do I love the new baby– my first son already loves him and cares instinctively about him too. And slowly but surely things are becoming familiar and cozy feeling. (He is 8 weeks old now). I highly recommend reading through the comments on Joanna Goddards blog where she posted about this same fear before her second boy was born- it really made me feel less alone and scared! Best wishes to you and your family! Xo

    5. Courtney
      Posted Jul 29 at 2:40 pm | Permalink

      My boys are 4 years and the baby is almost one. One thing that I felt was helpful in the early months with the baby was having a little spot for big brother in the nursery. He had a little chair and a small basket with a few toys/books. So when I was sitting in the rocking chair feeding the baby, big brother could hang out with me in his own little space. Also, a good baby carrier is essential. Baby brother goes everywhere that big brother goes!

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