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    {Behind the Veil} Cris from Kiss My Tulle

    So excited to have a new installment of Behind the Veil for you today!  And this one is perfect for the budgeted bride, because Cris of Kiss My Tulle had a $5,000 wedding budget. She’s sharing her tips and tricks, so take notes!

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    As a wedding blogger, what is your favorite part of other people’s weddings? 
    The ceremony. Wedding blogs and bloggers get so wrapped up in the latest trends and tiny little details that we can sometimes forget that a wedding is about two people becoming a new family.

    What was your favorite part of your wedding? 
    The ceremony was incredible. My mother-in-law officiated and we had readings from my little sister and The Boy’s younger brother. Having our family involved in the start of our new family was really powerful.

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    What was the first piece of wedding planning you did? 
    After buying my ring? I designed my own wedding planner/binder. I hated the super girly ones I found so I took the insides out of one, added my own page protectors (for magazine pages/inspiration and sketches), and worked it all up in a modern-looking binder from Target.

    In your opinion, what is one vendor no wedding can be without? 
    A kick ass wedding photographer. I spent a HUGE chunk of my budget on ours and she was worth every penny! Miranda of Miranda Laine Photography made our middle-aged asses look amazing. She also did this really cool thing where she took individual photos of each of the families/couples at our reception. I love those! But even if a vendor is a Must-Have for you, don’t be afraid to look for a deal or discount. I scored Miranda’s services at a discount because I booked her at a bridal show and I also carefully negotiated the contract to include free rein of the images for my blog (this is REALLY important if you’re a bride blogger!).

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    In your opinion, what is one thing or vendor that you think brides can do without (or at least do sparingly)? 
    All that fancy-schmancy bridal gear (P.S. The total cost of my wedding day outfit was $60.20!). You DO NOT need a new veil (I borrowed one form my friend), new jewelry (I wore old earrings and a necklace that was gift from another friend), or fancy undergarments (I was topless under my gown and borrowed Giant Scary Underpants from a good friend [Yes, I washed them before returning them. Unclench, y’all]). Even my dress was free. Yes, FREE. I got my gorgeous fully-beaded, halter gown free from another bride at The Wedding Dress Project who loved it but was willing to let it go so someone else could be blessed with it. P.S. My dress will be available at the end of the month (completely FREE) to another bride so be sure to check Kiss My Tulle regularly to see when it’s available.

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    What was your favorite source of inspiration for your own wedding? 
    Pinterest, baby. LOVE the Pinterest. I was able to use the search feature to look for specific wedding décor or looks (i.e. “wedding ribbon cake topper” or “heart favors”) and group those ideas together according to what bit of the wedding they were used in. This also ended up being a fabulous resource when I would travel to visit family and friends – I could just pull up ideas online for them to see instead of lugging my binder around. You can see loads of the ideas I pulled from on my Pinterest boards (Seriously, follow me. I give good board.)

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    Do you do an inspiration board? 
    I most certainly did. Several. I did two different ones (one for the ceremony and one for the reception) for Budget Savvy Bride and I also created my own inspiration board in my living room on a bulletin board! I’m incredibly visual so being able to physically pin up photos and thoughts in one place (next to my desk) was really important to me.

    Your favorite wedding memory? 
    I loved a random little moment that happened during the post-ceremony photo ops. One of my flower girls is severely autistic and started to meltdown during a group shot. I tried to calm her by singing her favorite song, “The Itsy Bitsy Spider”, to her. By the end of the song, the entire wedding party, family, and vendors were singing along. She loved it and that spontaneous moment was the coolest! P.S. That little moment is exactly why you should try to budget for a wedding videographer! We have photos of it but nothing beats actually seeing (and hearing it) on DVD. Katie of Lovebird Productions was SO affordable and because of her, I have that precious moment for life.

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    Your favorite wedding detail? 
    I totally thought my favorite detail would be my table settings (thrifted flatware and dishes plus DIYed cloth napkins) but it ended up being my fabulous bouquet. I bought all the flowers for my and the wedding party’s bouquets at my local supermarket (HEB – holla!) the morning of the ceremony. Two of my bridesmaids (who had never done flower arrangements before) did up my bouquet, 4 mini bouquets for the junior bridesmaids, and 3 bouquets for themselves and the matron-of-honor. They designed and created them while I was getting my hair and make-up done and I think my bouquet turned out gorgeous! Side note, I had forgotten to pick up floral tape for the flowers so my ‘maids stopped at Target and bought “green tape” – it ended up being green camouflage packing tape which worked out just fine!

    Were you a DIY bride? If so, what did you DIY? 
    What didn’t we DIY? To stay within our $5,000 budget we had to do and make pretty much everything ourselves. We made the palette tables for the reception, I made cloth napkins for the table settings, and we spray painted old food cans and removed labels from jars to make the centerpieces. The centerpiece flowers were bought in bulk from a local wildflower farm and the bouquets were made from flowers from the supermarket. I quilted a ring bearer pillow, my mom made the flower girl dresses and our fabric backdrop for the ceremony, and every single bit of stationery and paper goods were designed and assembled by me (I did printing through VistaPrint and MyOwnLabels). I made the wedding cake and the topper, glitter initials for the dessert table, a couple dozen cupcakes for dessert, and wrote the wedding ceremony. PHEW! It was exhausting but I wanted a homemade look and feel and loved knowing that I saved bunches of money by doing things myself.

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    Describe your wedding style. 
    Homemade, chic picnic. I was inspired by two things: the backyard picnics we used to have at my grandmother’s house and a beautiful baby quilt made for me by my Great-Grandma Lucia. I wanted everything to feel homey and casual but with a touch of the pretty to remind people that this was a special occasion.

    If you could offer one piece of advice to planning brides, what would it be? 
    Be prepared for the worst but know that you can make it better. We got engaged in January of 2011 and planned a May 2012 wedding. The Number One thing I wanted was to have my dad (who introduced us) perform the wedding ceremony. Unfortunately, my father was diagnosed with terminal cancer in July of 2011 and given 30 days to live. That changed everything. He told us that the only regret he had was not being able to be at our wedding. So we flew to Alaska and did a quick planned-in-three-days wedding and had him officiate it. I’m glad we did because my dad passed away right before Christmas of that year. My “real” wedding wasn’t at all what I wanted but it was exactly what I dreamed of.

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    How did you make your wedding YOU? 
    I focused on my family and friends and having a big party. Lots of the things I wanted to have DIYed or decorated did not happen because at some point in the process, I decided to let it go and just enjoy the experience with the people I loved most. So what if the water bottle labels were crooked? The junior bridesmaids had a blast putting them on. We forgot to put out the cootie catchers and coloring books that we made. Oh well, it was fun making them together. No dancing at all? Big whoop. We had great conversations and (later in the evening) glowstick wars. My wedding ended up being “us” because I realized that I cared less about having all these perfect little trends and details and more about having a good time with my guests.

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    Thanks so much Cris for sharing your fab DIY & budget-friendly wedding!  Totally a fan of those DIY projects and I think her advice for keeping in mind what is really important is invaluable.

    What is your favorite detail or piece of advice from Cris?  Do you have any tips to share for how you’re keeping your own wedding on a tight budget?

    All photos from Miranda Laine Photography.

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    {Behind the Veil} Jen from Blush Printables

    You may not love Mondays, but I know you love what some Mondays bring on Oh Lovely Day, and today is one of those Mondays!  I’ve got a new Behind the Veil feature for you – this one from Jen of Blush Printables.  I hope it helps and inspires :)

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    As a wedding blogger, what is your favorite part of other people’s weddings?
    Personalization and the little details always stand out to me.  You can always tell what kind of couple they are by the accessories, colors and details used throughout the wedding. 

    What was your favorite part of your wedding?
    Other than getting married?  Our dessert buffet.  They weren’t “in” yet, but we loved the idea of having all kinds of desserts for our guests to choose from.  Aside from our 4 tier cake, we had 22 pies, tortes, cakes and 3200 cookies.

    behind the veil of blush printables | tips and inspiration from blogger brides on oh lovely day


    What was the first piece of wedding planning you did (booked venue, bought dress, etc.)?
    The very first thing we did was set a date, then secure the Church.  It was so important to me to get married at the Chapel on my college campus, and I knew they booked way in advance.   They offer three time slots, and 18 months in advance we got the last time slot available. 

    In your opinion, what is one vendor no wedding can be without?
    An excellent photographer. 

    behind the veil of blush printables | tips and inspiration from blogger brides on oh lovely day

    In your opinion, what is one thing or vendor that you think brides can do without (or at least do sparingly)?

    I think it’s important that couples budget wisely, then prioritize how they want to spend their money. We’re picture people, for instance, and knew we’d never watch a wedding video.  We completely eliminated the need for a videographer, and put more money into our photography and food. 


    What was your favorite source of inspiration for your own wedding?

    We had a really hard time narrowing down what colors to use.  We were engaged long before wedding blogs became popular – in fact, I think SMP was only starting out at the time.  So I browsed Style Me Pretty an awful lot, but mostly flipped through bridal magazines.  A particular imagine in Martha Stewart Weddings really stood out to me – and we chose our wedding colors based on that image.    


    behind the veil of blush printables | tips and inspiration from blogger brides on oh lovely day

    Your favorite wedding memory?
    Seeing my husband for the first time.  We didn’t have a first look, so the first time we saw each other was when the Church doors opened and my dad walked me down the aisle. We had a large wedding — about 300 people — and nearly everyone was at the Chapel.  I was so nervous walking down the aisle with all eyes on me, but the moment I saw Ben all my fears disappeared.  
    I was so excited to see him, and we both had the biggest smile on our faces.  

    Your favorite wedding detail?
    My bouquet. 

    behind the veil of blush printables | tips and inspiration from blogger brides on oh lovely day


    Were you a DIY bride?  If so, what did you DIY?  
    I was!  I’m a stationer, so I made our invitations, programs, table numbers, escort cards and all of the signage at the reception.  I also designed a photo book guest book for our guests to sign at the reception.  I had so much fun designing everything! 

    Describe your wedding style.
    Vintage

    If you could offer one piece of advice to planning brides, what would it be?
    My advice to all brides is not to sweat the small stuff. No one is going to know if you forgot to pack a change of shoes for the reception. Not one is going to care if dinner is served ten minutes late. And I guarantee you that no one will notice if you forgot to set out a bathroom basket. As long as you’re happy, married to the love of your life, and surrounded by those who support you… then I promise you, you’ve done everything right.

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    How did you make your wedding YOU?
    We wanted our reception to be a gigantic celebration — so while the decor was very elegant and formal, we made sure our 300 guests could relax and have an amazing time — we had a dessert bar with our favorite desserts, picked all of the music for both the ceremony and reception and had a top shelf open bar.  I designed all of our wedding day paper goods and we worked with amazing vendors who really listened to our ideas and took our inspiration, and brought it to life.  

    We also had a lot of fun with our wedding pictures.  We went to our favorite sites in the city, and even rode a merry go round!  It made for some amazing pictures AND memories.  And yes, we totally smashed cake in each others faces. 

    behind the veil of blush printables | tips and inspiration from blogger brides on oh lovely day
    {all photos by Hills Studio Photography}
    Another great round of advice, don’t you think?  And a common theme seems to be to relax and enjoy your day.  Easier said than done, I know, but oh so important!  And don’t you love their cake smash photo?  Is there anything you’d like to see more of or hear more about in the Behind the Veil features?  Do you have a blogger bride you’d like to see featured?

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    {Behind the Veil} Louise from b.loved + A New Blog Schedule

    Thanks so much to so many of you that took this survey to tell me what you like and want from Oh Lovely Day.  You told me, and I listened, and I’m changing things up a bit.  While many of your favorite features will continue: Real Weddings, It’s in the Details, DIY, Behind the Veil, & Inspiration Boards to name a few, others will be getting phased out.  I will no longer be accepting real engagements or styled shoots, and I will also feature them infrequently and mostly on the weekends.  This is because most of you said you want to see less of those two features, with a focus more on the others.  You also asked for more DIY.  Now that my little guy is a bit older and we have a consistent routine, I will be featuring DIY projects that I create as well.  I have some fun ones in mind!  So the new blog schedule here will look something like this:

    {monday}      Behind the Veil or an Inspiration Board
    {tuesday}        It’s in the Details or DIY
    {wednesday} Real Wedding Wednesday
    {thursday}      By reader request, I’ll be featuring a weekly wedding planning tips feature, and
                              will answer reader questions
    {friday}           Friday Favorites, which will include the usual weekly wrap up, plus my favorite
                               pins of the week, and anything else fun I’d like to share like a giveaway
    {saturday}      Sponsored Post Saturday: introducing you to my Lovely Sponsors that make
                               this blog possible!
    {sunday}         E-session or Styled Shoot Sunday: this may not happen every week, but on the
                               weeks I have my you-know-what together, I’ll share a 7th post!

    Now what I need from you is your continued submissions of fabulous real weddings, email or comment below any planning questions you have or topics you’d like me to cover, inspiration board requests, and your continued readership & comment love.  If you know any planning brides, or anyone who just likes weddings, send them my way.  You can follow me on twitter, facebook, pinterest too for lots more inspiration that you don’t see on this blog (especially twitter and pinterest).  And if you want to give me more imput and haven’t yet filled out the survey, you can do that too.  I’m still reading your responses.

    Also, Oh Lovely Day is going to be getting a facelift with some added features by 2013!  I’m very excited!

    So, now that I got all of that out of the way, let’s get to today’s Behind the Veil feature!  Louise, from B.Loved is sharing a glimpse into her wedding and some planning advice.

    behind the veil of b.loved | tips and inspiration from blogger brides on oh lovely day
    As a wedding blogger, what is your favorite part of other people’s weddings?

    I am all about the details! I love to see the way couples bring their personalities to their wedding day, with stylish and heartfelt details.  Quirky stationery, pretty place settings, decor and flower arrangements are my weaknesses!

    What was your favorite part of your wedding?

    Saying our vows.  We spent a lot of time making our wedding look the way we wanted, but our vows were chosen by my husband and the most heartfelt part of our day.  I also loved walking into the reception and seeing all my ideas brought to life by the talented team of suppliers we hired!


    behind the veil of b.loved | tips and inspiration from blogger brides on oh lovely day
    What was the first piece of wedding planning you did (booked venue, bought dress, etc.)?

    The first thing we did was book our photographer (Christine Meintjes). We had followed her work for at least a couple of years before we got engaged, and chose our wedding date around her availability.  Photography was the most important thing to us, to have all our memories captured professionally and beautifully.

    In your opinion, what is one vendor no wedding can be without?

    A great photographer!

    behind the veil of b.loved | tips and inspiration from blogger brides on oh lovely day

    In your opinion, what is one thing or vendor that you think brides can do without (or at least do sparingly)?

    Think carefully about how much food and drink you need.  If you’re having a champagne & canapé hour, you might not need a starter as well.  Likewise, your wedding cake can make a pretty awesome dessert (ours was finished with a drizzle of syrup!) rather than dessert and cake.  Another alternative is dessert canape’s, or a dessert bar!  Also, a signature drink or cocktail is a great way to limit your drinks budget, and personalise your wedding, leaving you more to spend on things that are really important to you (like a designer pair of shoes you can wear after the big day)

    What was your favorite source of inspiration for your own wedding?

    I was (still am!) addicted to a lot of wedding blogs! My absolute favourite has to be Martha Stewart Weddings, just for always being so ahead of the curve.  Getting married in South Africa, I relied on a lot of the top planners blogs for ideas and suppliers that would work for our wedding, Wedding Concepts being my favourite.  I’m lucky that now I have a great working relationship with them, and get to feature their work on b.loved!

    Do you do an inspiration board?   
    I did.

    behind the veil of b.loved | tips and inspiration from blogger brides on oh lovely day

    {go here for photo sources} 

    Your favorite wedding memory?

    So many, but the overwhelming memory is a feeling of love and happiness!  We had an intimate wedding with just 45 guests, so being able to catch up and talk to everyone was perfect.

    Your favorite wedding detail?

    My bouquet.  It was amazing!


    behind the veil of b.loved | tips and inspiration from blogger brides on oh lovely day

    Were you a DIY bride?  If so, what did you DIY?  

    I designed a lot of the details and elements of our day, but left the most important parts to the professionals! I designed the save the dates and invites, and had them letterpressed.  Then I designed the rest of the papergoods, menu’s, signs, table plan, guest book postcards and had them printed.  I planned a candy bar and cigar & whisky bar instead of wedding favours, which our guests loved!  As a nod to my interior design background, I made wallpanels out of wallpaper samples which were hung on the walls of the terrace where we held the evening reception. 


    behind the veil of b.loved | tips and inspiration from blogger brides on oh lovely day

    Describe your wedding style.

    Contemporary & relaxed elegance

    If you could offer one piece of advice to planning brides, what would it be?

    Read blogs, lots of them, to get as much inspiration as possible.  Open your mind, forget traditions and think about what you really want.


    behind the veil of b.loved | tips and inspiration from blogger brides on oh lovely day

    How did you make your wedding YOU?
    As I’m English, and my husband is South African our wedding was all about the marriage of two cultures.  We got married on the most beautiful wine estate in the mountains near Cape Town, close to the farm where my husband grew up.  When looking for a venue we wanted something that was typically South African with beautiful Cape Dutch architecture and our venue, Morgansvlei, had all of that and more!  The orange & grey palette became affectionately known as ‘African sun & London fog’, our whole day was a mix of South African & English culture, with our vows read in both English and Afrikaans, signs and stationery in both languages too.  We included English wedding traditions and South African ones too.  Even the wine was produced by an English-South African company called Brit & Boer (a nod to their ancestors who were among the first Brits and the first Dutch farmers to settle in South Africa!)

    behind the veil of b.loved | tips and inspiration from blogger brides on oh lovely day
    {all photos by Christine Meintjes}

    What a gorgeous wedding!  Isn’t that first photo of Louise stunning?  Thanks for sharing, Louise!  xx
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