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    {Behind the Veil} Lauren from Southern Aisle

    I’ve got another installment of Behind the Veil for you today, and I think you’re gonna L-O-V-E it!  I’m obsessed with the details of Lauren of Southern Aisle’s wedding!  Grab some coffee, or a mimosa – no judgement, and enjoy!


    As a wedding blogger, what is your favorite part of other people’s weddings?

    I honestly love the variety.  As a blogger I get to see many different types of couples with many different styles.  The ideas and creativity that go into weddings these days constantly blows my mind.

    What was your favorite part of your wedding?

    Saying our vows and being announced for the first time as husband and wife was unforgettable.  We decided not to wire the front porch with a microphone. So, even though our ceremony was witnessed by 250 people, it honestly felt like an extremely private moment between the two of us and our closest family (who had VIP seats on the porch).

    What was the first piece of wedding planning you did (booked venue, bought dress, etc.)?

    My first official wedding planning duty was to book our venue; Marlsgate Plantation. We both love history and immediately knew we wanted to get married in a classic outdoor location.  The moment I stepped on the gorgeous grounds I was sold.



    In your opinion, what is one vendor no wedding can be without?

    A great photographer. These are photos you will have for the rest of your life, definitely make them count.

    In your opinion, what is one thing or vendor that you think brides can do without (or at least do sparingly)?

    Every bride is different.  You really have to prioritize which elements are the most important to you.  These days it’s very easy for brides, grooms and guests alike to get caught up in the theatrics of it all. And, many times those ideas may not fit the budget.  Always, always remember that at the end of the aisle, it will not matter what cocktail napkins you used, or how large the centerpieces were, it will matter that you took a vow to love, honor and cherish. 



    What was your favorite source of inspiration for your own wedding?

    We really let our venue do the talking.  A lot of our wedding details just fell into place once we had decided on a plantation home setting for our ceremony and reception.  If you think about it, the venue typically sets the tone of any event.  You’ll be hard pressed to find a glitz and glamour wedding set in a barn, or a shabby chic wedding that took place in a ballroom.  We decided to play up the history and the traditional Southern-ness of our venue choice.  Therefore, bow ties, a string quartet, mason jar cocktails and a home cooked Arkansas meal just made perfect sense.



    Do you do an inspiration board?  

    I kept a running document where I saved inspirational images.  I had one page for every category (invitations, flowers, tables, etc).  It was my basic foundation and I referred to it often.

    Your favorite wedding memory?

    I distinctly remember a moment during dinner where I just took it all in – the gorgeous setting in our reception tent, the fact that all those people were there just to love and support us and that I had said ‘I do’ to my favorite man ever.  I definitely had a Jim & Pam camera moment…

    Your favorite wedding detail?

    I would have to say our bow tie detailsTo pay homage to Bryant’s Southern style, the napkins were tied in the shape of bows and we reminded our guests in our wedding invitation suite that it was a “bow ties welcome” event.



    Were you a DIY bride?  If so, what did you DIY?  

    I didn’t want to load myself down with projects, so I picked a few key details to DIY.  They were mostly items that I really wanted at the wedding but wasn’t willing to dip far into my budget for.  I decided to make my own welcome bags, table signs, seating cards and ribbon wands. 

    Describe your wedding style.

    Bryant and I were both born and raised in Arkansas, yet we met and fell in love in Washington, DC.   Since I also went to college out of state, many of our guests were going to be traveling and had never dreamed of visiting Arkansas before.  We immediately decided to show off the best our state had to offer in every aspect of our wedding.  From save the dates, to the breathtaking plantation home, to the food and the table decor – Arkansas and classic Southern details was our main focus.



    If you could offer one piece of advice to planning brides, what would it be?

    Definitely make time to do other activities you love during the planning process.  It’s easy to sit there and stress over linens and flowers.  When that happens, take a big step back from the wedding planning; go for a walk, see a movie or get some ice cream.  Ironically for me, my activity of choice was to work on Southern Aisle.  Anytime I got stressed or frustrated, I’d funnel that into a blog post.  I give it full credit for keeping me sane.

    How did you make your wedding YOU?

    Southern weddings are just different.  Not better, just different.  After living for a time in the Midwest and on the East Coast, I have gained a deeper appreciation for my Southern roots. We really wanted to hone in on that at our wedding. There’s something special that distinguishes weddings in our region from others around the country.  Often times it is the obvious things; classic details, historic venues and country cooking.  But you can always find those subtle hints of tradition, hospitality and charm.

    {all photos by Katie Day}
    Ah, I love the bowtie details!  And the florals. And the monogrammed mens shirts Lauren and her bridesmaids wore as they got ready (a gift from Lauren – such a fab idea!).  And that welcome sign!  
    What is your favorite detail or piece of advice that Lauren shared?  I’d love to hear!  And a big thanks to Lauren for sharing her lovely wedding with us today :)
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    {Behind the Veil} Brit from Landlocked Bride

    Happy Monday!  I’m back from vacation but taking a few more days because we have some events for my husband’s job this week that are keeping us busy, so I have a few more great guest posts coming your way.  But first, another installment of Behind the Veil, featuring the lovely Brit from Landlocked Bride!

    As a wedding blogger, what is your favorite part of other people’s weddings?

    I absolutely love a couple’s story and how their story translates into the details of their wedding.  As a wedding stylist, I work with my couples to understand how to take a vision they have for their big day and infuse personality into it.  It’s so important to me that a wedding be a reflection of the couple, their marriage and their style.  And, as a blogger, the weddings that have a heart-warming story and details to match are what catch my eye the most. 

    What was your favorite part of your wedding?

    I can’t pick just one.  I remember so much of our wedding as if it was yesterday. The first look, our ceremony, the ferris wheel ride, partying with our friends and family. So much of it contributed to creating this one cohesive memory that is my favorite part. It’s the culmination of how the day unfolded that made it so special to me.  BUT, to answer your question, probably the ferris wheel ride.  It was 25 minutes of time alone with my new husband, a view of downtown St. Louis, a cool breeze and the mist of a gentle rain.  The laughter.  It was the first time we had quiet time to ourselves as husband and wife.  While our photographers and videographer were not too far away capturing these moments, I never noticed.  It gave us time to reflect on the day and remember why we fell in love in the first place.




    What was the first piece of wedding planning you did (booked venue, bought dress, etc.)?

    The first thing we did was book our ceremony and reception venues so we could set a date.  With almost two years to plan our wedding, we wanted to make sure we had our first pick for venues.

    In your opinion, what is one vendor no wedding can be without?

    Photographer.  Even without the regular hoopla of a traditional wedding, you still want an archivist there to capture every detail. The kiss, the vows, the rings.  Those are where the memories are – not in the dress or the food or the flowers.

    In your opinion, what is one thing or vendor that you think brides can do without (or at least do sparingly)?

    Ahh, this is so tough.  It really depends on what is most important to a bride and groom.  For many, it’s videography.  As long as they have a photographer, that’s usually enough.  But, I’m a sucker for a great video (and had a videographer myself).  Honestly, every vendor has a crucial part in the grand scheme of things.  My best advice is for couples to decide what is most important to them (pick their top three) and focus resources there by scaling back on the other details and vendors that maybe are not as important in their opinion.




    What was your favorite source of inspiration for your own wedding?

    Fashion magazines.  I strayed away from wedding blogs because the trend that was popping up during my planning was the onset of “vintage” and the use of peacocks.  While both pretty and fabulous, they are not a reflection of my personal style or my husband’s.  I was on the hunt for bold uses of color, and the fashion world is full of it.

    Do you do an inspiration board?  
    I did do an inspiration board. It was the foundation from where all of our other ideas were created.

    Your favorite wedding memory?

    Our wedding ceremony and reading our vows.  We had written our entire ceremony ourselves since we had my aunt officiate.  Every ounce of that ceremony was personal.  And, at the end, there was not a dry eye in the house – even my boss teared up.




    Your favorite wedding detail?

    Fred Bird.  He’s the mascot for the St. Louis Cardinals (2011 World Series Champions).  My friends and family have a deep love of the Cardinals.  So, as a surprise, I hired him to come party at our reception for an hour.  Of our 200 guests, only two people knew (me and my husband).  We told our photographer and the venue, and that was it.  So at 9 p.m., Fred Bird comes rolling in and everyone’s faces light up.  We have seen so many photos from our wedding of our guests with him.

    Were you a DIY bride?  If so, what did you DIY?  
    I’m the opposite of a DIY bride. I vowed to only design our invitations since I have a design and creative background, but that was the extent of it.  Until I came across yarn balls.  I opted to not do floral centerpieces, mostly because I could not find a style or arrangement that really fit our style for the reception.  So, I created yarn balls to place on 1/3 of our tables.


    Describe your wedding style.

    Definitely modern. I love color. Love it.  That’s not to say I don’t love a good mason jar or bolt of burlap, because I do.  My heart just sings at the site of clean lines, minimalism and pops of color.

    If you could offer one piece of advice to planning brides, what would it be?

    Just one? Oh, that’s tough.  At the end of the day it’s your wedding. While you may have a hurdle or two to jump (thanks to a small budget or an opinionated mom), your wedding should 100% be a reflection of you.  There are no rules when it comes to wedding planning, so it’s okay to buck tradition or follow it.  When you start to listen to everyone, get caught up in minute (unimportant details), let too many magazines sway you, that’s when you’ll get stressed out.  This entire experience should be relatively stress-free.  If it’s not, then re-think your approach.


    And, if I can add one more – establish a budget and stick with it. Know who is contributing, and what your top priorities are (food, photography, etc.).  If you set parameters and priorities, you’ll know where you should focus on spending your money and where you can cut back.



    {photos by Lisa Hessel}


    How did you make your wedding YOU?

    Every aspect of our wedding was 100% a reflection of our personal style.  We were incredibly blessed to have family who gave us the freedom to make decisions based on the experience we wanted to have during wedding planning.  This allowed us to opt for a bolder color palette, hire Fred Bird, serve pretzels and a nacho cheese fountain as a late night snack, and hire an out of state videographer who specializes in Super 8 film.  It was our goal for our wedding to be fun not just for us, but more importantly, for our guests.  We knew that if we infused so much of ourselves into the wedding, everyone would have a great time.




    I love Brit’s advice and how she and her hubs went on a ferris wheel ride for some alone time!  What a sweet and fun idea, you know, if you have a ferris wheel around :)  Thanks so much Brit!  xx

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    {Behind the Veil} Emma from Emmaline Bride

    Today’s blogger bride is Emma from Emmaline Bride, and since we both love DIY and handmade details, I know she’s got lots of inspiration to share!

    As a wedding blogger, what is your favorite part of other people’s weddings?
    I love the handmade details and the stories behind how they were created.  I especially love to hear the story in the bride’s own words, like how she crafted the table numbers, how her fiancé built the cake stand, or how the bridal party assembled invitations with the bride to make it easier.  Those sweet little details are always a labor of love!
    What was your favorite part of your wedding?
    The season!  It was early December and we selected a wedding palette of deep red and ivory.  Mistletoe pomanders, faux evergreen branches, and large red full-bloom roses decorated our ceremony and reception sites.  The slight chill in the air meant I wouldn’t sweat away my makeup, either. 😉
     
    What was the first piece of wedding planning you did (booked venue, bought dress, etc.)?
    The first thing I did was dress shop with my mom.  We went to so many stores and made a few days out of it –  we had such a blast!  I even tried on a few fun dresses, just for laughs.



    In your opinion, what is one vendor no wedding can be without?
    No wedding can be without a photographer!  The day flies by in an instant… it’s crucial to be able to relive those memories after the day is over.  Plus, you’ll find so many shots that you would have missed throughout the night, since you can’t be everywhere at once!
    In your opinion, what is one thing or vendor that you think brides can do without (or at least do sparingly)?
    It depends on the couple.  If you love flowers, make it a large portion of your budget;  if not, use sparingly and allocate the funds to another area, like a fun photo booth or a unique wedding favor for guests.  Make the most of your wedding by highlighting areas about which you are most passionate.
    What was your favorite source of inspiration for your own wedding?
    I planned before I was part of the wedding industry, and before many wedding blogs were popular, so I definitely used wedding magazines to help plan. My favorite was Martha Stewart Weddings magazine;  I still have a few issues saved with pages bookmarked, ripped out, and highlighted.
    Your favorite wedding memory?
    Walking down the aisle and seeing him for the first time.  I thought I’d be nervous with all those eyes on me, but everyone seemed to disappear and all I could see was him.  What a memorable moment!


    Did you do an inspiration board?  (Would you share it with photo credits or a link to where you may have posted it with credits?)
    I did not have an inspiration board, but I did tear out photos of magazines and place them in a folder for inspiration.  I bookmarked tons of wedding sites, always checking back to them in between class or after work.  My laptop went with me everywhere.

    Your favorite wedding detail?
    After the ceremony, we were greeted by the most beautiful snowfall.  It was perfect.  Plus, there was a massive snowstorm the next day with over three feet of snow, which just missed us!  Thank goodness.



    Were you a DIY bride?  If so, what did you DIY?  (feel free to share a DIY or link to one if you’d like!)
    Most definitely!  I DIYed everything… the flower girl bouquets, the programs, the save the dates, the favors… It was the true start of my newfound DIY wedding love.
    Describe your wedding style.
    Modern, elegant, and chic.

    If you could offer one piece of advice to planning brides, what would it be?
    Be yourself:  your wedding day should be all about you and your soon-to-be spouse.  And, remember to keep date nights weekly for a movie, romantic dinner, and other couple-y things (with no wedding talk).
    How did you make your wedding YOU?
    We were able to hand-pick songs for the reception thanks to our awesome DJ Aaron of A-Team Productions.  We included favorite songs shared with friends through the years, along with crowd-pleasers Aaron suggested to make sure everyone would get up and dance… and they did!  Plus, my husband and I spent the entire night on the dance floor and enjoyed every minute.

    Such great advice!  And don’t you love her winter bride style?  Thanks Emma for sharing with us today!  :)
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