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    10 Mistakes Couples Make on Wedding Invitations

    Hello Oh Lovely Day Readers.  It is Meredith from Love and Lavender.  I am honoured that Chandra asked me to help her out with a guest post while she spends some quality time with her new little one. Oh Lovely Day offers great wedding planning tips, so I am contributing my advice on common mistakes couples make on their wedding invitations.

    10 mistakes couples make on wedding invitations | oh lovely day

    1) Budget:  If you haven’t ordered stationery before then you may be shocked to see how expensive wedding invitations can be. When couples first set their wedding budget they may not factor in a specific amount for stationery.  I think this is a mistake. Invitations are a great way to set the tone and look of your big day. Just make sure you are realistic about the expense of setting that tone. Stationery can range from $1-$10 per piece depending on type, paper, or embellishments (e.g., bows, embossing, foil, letterpress  and thermography). Read More »

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    5 Rules for Having a “No Kids” Wedding

    5 rules for having a no kids wedding by oh lovely day

    Since I’ve gotten this question a lot, and since I’m about to have another kid any day now (though still no baby yet!), I thought throwing an “adults only” wedding would be a good theme to revisit.

    Whether or not to include kids in your wedding, either in your wedding party or as guests, is a decision each couple must make together.  There are lots of reasons to include kids or to go for an adults-only affair.  If you do decide to keep your wedding adults only, there are a couple of ways to let your guests know.

    5 rules for having a no kids wedding by oh lovely day
    1.  Tell them who is invited on the envelope

    If you’re doing an inner and outer envelope (does anyone do that anymore? – I didn’t) then you individually list each member of the family invited to the wedding on the inner envelope.

    So if you are inviting a married couple, their 16 year old daughter, but not their 5 year old twins, you would do the outer envelope like this:
    Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
    123 Green Street
    Nowhereville, CA  99999

    And then do the inner envelope like this:
    Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
    Caroline Smith

    Make sense?  But what if you aren’t doing inner and outer envelopes?

    2.  Put it on your wedding website
    You can include in the description of your wedding that it is an adults-only celebration.  My husband and I offered babysitting services for any guests who were coming in from out of town and wanted to bring their children.

    3.  Have your parents help you spread the word.
    It is a good idea to call and personally spread the word to any invited guests who have children to let them know you won’t be including them. You can enlist your mom or mother-in-law to help you do the dirty work.

    4.  Choose an age cut-off and make no exceptions.
    You should decide an age (say 14, or whatever you’d like) and make no exceptions of inviting children under that age.  That way no one gets offended because their 12 year old wasn’t invited, but you made an allowance for a friend’s 10 year old.  The only allowable exception: the flower girl and ring bearer.

    5.  DO NOT include anything in, on, or near your wedding invitation about kids not being invited.
    It is a major don’t to do two things when it comes to invitations: don’t include gift registry information on or with your invitations, and don’t exclude or announce an exclusion of a group of people.  The invitations are supposed to “invite” so see rule 1 on how to do it properly.

    5 rules for having a no kids wedding by oh lovely day

    Will you piss a couple of people off by not including kids?  Maybe.  I know we had a guest who made a big fuss about her kids not being invited and made some passive-aggressive comments on facebook (which I replied to by blocking her altogether so I wouldn’t see her comments at all).  But you know what – it is your wedding.  And most of your guests totally understand.  Most of our guests didn’t want to bring their kids because they wanted to have a fun night with just the adults.  Either way, make your decision early, follow these rules, and stick to your guns.

    Is anyone having an adults-only wedding?  How are you handling it?

    {photo credits} top photo originally seen in this gorgeous mint + pink storybook wedding / middle photos originally seen in this Southern DIY rustic chic wedding / bottom photo originally seen in this charming backyard DIY wedding

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    Tips For Finding Your Wedding Dress

    7 tips for finding your wedding dress from oh lovely day

    Since it’s been awhile since we chatted about wedding dress shopping, I thought it would be a great post to revisit. Shopping for your wedding dress is one of the most anticipated pre-wedding moments for brides.  But just because you are excited about it doesn’t mean it will go smoothly, or even be fun. But it SHOULD be fun.  If you prepare ahead of time and follow these tips, your wedding dress shopping experience will be both fun and productive. And successful! Read More »

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    Finding Your Wedding Venue 101

    10 tips for finding your wedding venue

    Since wedding season is upon us, I thought revisiting some of my planning tips posts would be helpful to you newly engaged couples out there.  I talked about the five things you should do first when you get engaged.  I also told you that finding your venue can be one of the most important, and hardest, parts of planning.  So today I’m going to revisit some tips to finding your wedding venue.  My first two quick pieces of advice:  there is no perfect venue and being open to any date will give you have more options.

    Some questions you need to ask yourself when looking for a venue:

    1.  Do you want to get married in a church or religious location? (because this automatically means to need two locations)

    2.  Do you want your ceremony and reception to be in one location? (this is often more affordable and convenient)

    3.  How many guests will you be having?

    4.  What time of year or season will you be getting married?

    5.  What geographical location will you be getting married in?

    Once you have decided as a couple that you want a summer wedding, or an outdoor wedding, or a church wedding, or a destination wedding, you have a better idea of how to narrow down your venue search!

    Finding Your Wedding Venue 101
    Once you know what you’re looking for, you need to find some locations to visit.  Some great resources for finding venues:

    1. Ask married friends who have gotten married in the same geographical area or part of the country.  They may have done a venue search and can recommend some places or tell you places to avoid.

    2.  Look online.  You can go a google search for your area, look on sites like The Knot or Wedding Wire, and check out vendor guides on wedding blogs for ideas.

    3.  If you’re in a larger area buy a wedding magazine specific to that area, like The Knot Southern California, which has ads and listings for local venues.

    4.  Search the wedding blogs for weddings in your area and check out the venues featured in the real weddings.  I’ve had lots of brides email asking me about the venues featured on Oh Lovely Day, and I’m always happy to help them find what they’re looking for.

    Finding Your Wedding Venue 101
    Once you find a few venues you want to visit, here are some questions that you might not think of that are VERY important to ask:

    1.  Do you have a cut off time or a time limit?  Lots of places make you cut off the music by 10 pm or give you 4 hours for your reeption, and if you want to party to the wee hours this is important to you.

    2.  Do you cater on site, have rentals, etc. or do we have to bring everything on site ourselves?

    3.  What is the parking like for your guests?

    4.  What are the bathrooms like for your guests?  (this is important! you don’t want porto-potties for your guests right?)

    5.  Can I bring my own alcohol on site?  (this is a gem and can save you a lot of money)

    6.  Where will the guests eat, dance, have cocktail hour, sit for the reception (if applicable)?  You want to be sure there is room for the number of guests you have in mind at each location.

    7.  Can we use any vendors we want?  Do you have any vendor requirements or restrictions?

    8.  What are the extra fees or hidden costs?  Sometimes ceremonies cost extra.  There is a fee if you go over a certain number of people.

    9.  Do you have a minimum cost that we must meet?  Many venues do, and while they are usually easy to meet, if the minimum is $20,000 and that is more than your budget, that is not the venue for you.

    10.  What other restrictions do you have, if any?  Some of these could be a noise restriction (could prevent you from having the band or DJ you want), decoration restrictions, etc.

    These ten questions will help you narrow down your venue choices to find the right one for you.  When I was venue hunting, I found one I loved, but they made you shut the music off by 10 pm, and for the kind of party we wanted to throw that just wasn’t going to work.

    Finding Your Wedding Venue 101

    I hope these tips will help you to find your wedding venue.  And remember, no venue is perfect!  But there is one out there that will feel right for you.  You’ll find it, I promise!

    Have other tips for finding your wedding venue?  Leave them in the comments!

    Photos originally found on this blog here:  photo 1 | photo 2 | photo 3 | photo 4

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    Wedding Day Scheduling Tips

    wedding day timeline tips from oh lovely day

    We’ve talked what to do when you’re first engaged, how to find your wedding venue, cutting your guest list, and lots more wedding planning tips.  But what about those of you who are about to get married and have already finished the planning?  You need help planning your wedding day schedule.  So today I’m revisiting my tips for helping you make a wedding day timeline. Read More »

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