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    {Planning Tips} 5 Traditions You Can (or Should) Skip

    Traditions can be great, but not all wedding traditions are necessary, or even meaningful, in today’s weddings.  The thing that is important in a tradition is that it means something to you.  So don’t do the traditional wedding vows if they hold no personal meaning for you – write your own!  Or if your father isn’t in your life for whatever reason, don’t feel like you have to have someone give you away.  You do the things that feel right and make you happy on your wedding day.

    Here are some old traditions that no one miss, and a couple that I think are outdated and awkward.5 Traditions You Can (or Should) Skip from Oh Lovely Day | having a bride's side and a groom's side

    1.  Having a Bride’s Side and a Groom’s Side

    While the idea of having your friends and family on your “side” doesn’t bother me (at least you’ll know where to look for your peeps) I also love the idea of letting people sit wherever they want for your ceremony.  And it eliminates the need for ushers, which I also think are totally unnecessary (also unnecessary: guestbook attendants.)

    2.  Doing a Receiving Line
    Don’t ever make your guests stand in a line at your wedding if you can avoid it, and NEVER do it unless it is for food or a drink.  The receiving line is pointless and a waste of time.  After you and your husband eat your dinner, just walk around to all of the tables and quickly greet and thank your guests.  This allows your guests to be comfortable and you and your spouse to have more time to dance the night away!

    5 Traditions You Can (or Should) Skip from Oh Lovely Day | giving favors
    3.  Giving Favors
    Can you remember any of the wedding favors you’ve received at a wedding?  I bet most of you will say no.  While favors can be a fun way to include your personalities or identities into your wedding details, they aren’t necessary and probably won’t be missed.  Don’t feel comfortable skipping them altogether?  Do something extra that your guests can enjoy – like a candy or dessert bar – and put out cute paper bags to take some home too.  Or do a charity donation in lieu of favors.  I love the way it was done in the photo above.
    4.  Bouquet Toss
    First of all, you probably paid at least $150 (or more!) for that bouquet and it is gorgeous.  Would you just toss money around like that?  Of course not.  Secondly, and more importantly, it can be humiliating.  Not for you, the bride, but for the single ladies that are shoved onto the dance floor and probably forced to smile while they are told they could be “the next lucky one to get married” if they catch that bouquet.  As a girl who was a bridesmaid 8 times before I got engaged and have been to more weddings than I remember, I speak from experience.  No, not everyone feels that way.  Yes, some people love the bouquet toss.  But some people just do it because “it is what people do” and if that is the case, I think you can do without it.

    5 Traditions You Can (or Should) Skip from Oh Lovely Day | The Garter Toss

    5.  Garter Toss

    I am a firm believer that you should wear a pretty garter on your wedding day, and you should leave it on for your husband to find on your wedding night.  Do not, I beg you, do a garter toss during your reception.  The first word I think of when someone says “garter toss” is yuck.  Or maybe it’s gross.  Definitely awkward.  I mean, come on - who wants to sit there while all of your guests watch your husband creep up your gown to remove your garter (the really lovely ones do it with their teeth!) YUCK.  This is definitely a tradition to, well, toss.  Wear a pretty garter, have photos of it taken, pass it down as an heirloom or something blue.  But please do not toss it.So what do you think of these traditions you can skip?  Do you agree or disagree?  Are there others you would add to the list?  I’d love to hear!

    {photo credits} Stacy Kokes via The Sweetest Occasion / Rebecca Hansen Weddings via Ruffled / photo by Jennifer Roper and garter by The Garter Girl from my wedding

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    {Planning Tips} I’m Engaged! Now What? The Five Things To Do First

    Welcome to our first official Planning Tips feature (although I have done many planning tips features in the past, they just weren’t “official” per this new schedule I’m trying out).  I’m really excited to do this weekly feature, because I feel like as a former bride and wedding blogger I can really help with some of the logistical, practical, planning type of things that the newly engaged have no idea about.  I know I didn’t!  And I’m also taking reader questions, so if you have a problem or a planning question you need help with, please leave a comment or email me and I’ll try to answer it during one of these weekly features.  First up, I’m sharing the five things you should do first when you get engaged.

    {photo by Jennifer Roper}

    {one} set a budget
    After you call your parents and friends to share the news and celebrate your newly engaged bliss, the first thing you need to do is set a budget.  This will determine everything else you do, decide on, and choose.  Are you paying for the wedding yourselves or will your parents contribute?  How much will be contributed?  The best thing you can do is figure this out before anything else, and then stick to your budget.

    {two} make a guest list
    Each of you should make a list of who you would like to invite, and you may want to let each of your parents do the same (especially if they are footing the bill!)  Then you’ll have an anxiety attack when you add them all up to 500 people!  Trust me when I say that this will not be your real guest list.  You will cut cut cut until you reach a more realistic number.  This can be hard when you include everyone’s friends, family members, work colleagues, and your mother-in-law’s second cousin twice removed.  So set rules: no extended family (meaning parents, grandparents, aunts & uncles, and first cousins only), no people from work, no kids: these are a few ways to cut the list if you are comfortable with it.  And this is just a starting point to give you a good idea.  You can always add or subtract as needed.  REMEMBER – THE MORE PEOPLE YOU HAVE, THE MORE MONEY YOUR WEDDING WILL COST.  This is why step one is so important!

    {three} find a venue
    Warning: for me, this was the hardest and most stressful part of wedding planning.  Finding a venue that meets your budget, finding a venue that fits your guest list, finding a venue that doesn’t make you cut off the music at a ridiculously early hour, finding a venue that isn’t booked for two years… these are just a few of many frustrating parts of your venue search.  My husband and I also really wanted to get married on a particular date, and this made our search hard as well.  Once we let that go, the possibilites opened up for us.  That’s why I didn’t say “pick a date.”  It is much better to be open to any date in the month or two you prefer to be married.  Once you find a venue you love in a location you love that works with your budget and guest count, the hardest part of your wedding planning is behind you!

    {four} think about your wedding style
    Let me repeat, THINK about your wedding style.  Don’t decide on ANYTHING.  You will change your mind 500 times.  Also, repeat after me: I WILL NOT BUY ANYTHING YET.  You will change your mind, and have wasted your money (learn from my mistakes!)  Just start looking at some wedding blogs, pick up the latest Martha Stewart Weddings, look around your home (because your wedding style should reflect YOU and what YOU love), bundle things on lover.ly, create a pinterest board, and start thinking.

    {five} take a breath and relax
    Once you have gotten the big things out of the way, stop planning for a little bit (depending on how far away your wedding date is).  Getting wrapped up in the planning can get you frustrated, scare and confuse your soon-to-be groom, and get overwhelming real quick.  Having a budget, an idea of your guest list, a venue (and therefore a wedding date), and thinking about your style is enough for now.  Although every city and location is different and demand for other wedding vendors is higher in some places than others, everyone should have a little breather before you move on to the rest of your planning.  Enjoy being engaged.  Celebrate.  Go on a date and don’t talk about the wedding.  It is refreshing!

    While these are the first 5 things you should do, you may also want to start looking at vendors you like when you are perusing the wedding blogs.  Many of us (me included) have vendor guides to help you.  Plus, at the end of every wedding feature all of the vendors are listed, so if the feature is in your area and you like the photographs or florals from that wedding, you may want to consider those vendors.

    So tell me, who out there is planning a wedding right now?  Are you just starting or well into the planning?  Do any of you disagree with these tips or have others you think should come first?  Do you have any questions you need answered or areas you would like to hear tips for?  Let me know!

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    {DIY} Personalized Aisle Runner

    You know that super sweet handmade wedding I featured earlier this week?  (if you missed it, go check it out first, then come back here.  I’m serious, go!)  Well the bride, Angela is sharing the DIY for her awesome personalized aisle runner today.  She is the first official Oh Lovely Day reader DIY submission to be featured, and I hope there are many more to come! (hint hint, wink wink)  So, welcome Angela!

    {Personalized Aisle Runner DIY}
    DIY personalized aisle runner from Oh Lovely Day
    {What You’ll Need}
    -Iron
    -Fabric for runner:  Two tips to remember- you’ll need enough fabric to match the length of your aisle and it is best to use a light colored fabric (I used cream muslin) so your details show up
    -Fabric for words: The amount you need depends on the number of words you want to use.  It is best to use a solid color fabric (I used black and green) so the words show up.
    -Wonder Under (also known as fusible web): This is the “glue” you will use to iron your letters onto your runner.  The amount you need depends on the number of letters you want, but it goes fast, so best to have a lot!
    -Iron-on Transfers for Photos:  For 90% of my photos I used a full page for one photo, so you’ll need the amount of transfers to match the number of photos you want to use.
    -Storage baggies or folders: You’ll need one for each word to keep your letters organized.
     
    {Now here’s what you do}
    But first, a warning:  I am not going to glamorize the time it took to make this runner. I spent a solid couple of days with a friend cutting out the letters and then 6+ hours ironing them on.  This DIY is not for the faint of heart!
    {Step 1}
    I started the aisle runner with a photo of both myself and my husband as children followed by our first date. The photos then progressed like a time line starting with our first year of dating till the end of the aisle runner and finally ending with Ever After, where my father handed me off.
    {Step 2}
    I started with picking my favorite photos through the years, vacations, birthdays, picnics etc. Then figuring phrases to go with each photo. ” Road trip to California,” “Craig’s 24th Birthday,” etc.
    {Step 3}
    I then printed all the words out on regular paper at the size I wanted the words to be. This took about 30 sheets of paper. I used three different fonts, and they were the corresponding fonts I used in the programs. I got the vintage style fonts here.
    {Step 4}
    Once all the words are printed, trace them onto the wonder under.  Trace onto the side that feels like parchment paper.  It needs to be a mirror image of the words, so flip the printed page over so it is upside down (doing it wrong will make the wording backwards).  Also, it is best to trace with a pen, because if you use a pencil the lead gets on the iron.
    {Step 5}
    Once all your words are traced, you iron the wonder under onto the fabric you bought for your words. Your iron will touch the side that you traced the letters onto- the parchment paper side.
    {Step 6}
    Once you have done this and all the words are ironed, cut out all the letters and words, cutting through the wonder under and fabric. But be sure, once you finish a set of words like ” First Date” put it in a baggy or envelope. This will help with the organizing when you are finished and need to lay out all your words on the aisle runner fabric.
    {Step 7}
    Print all your photos onto photo transfer paper, and to make your life easier match up all the words with the photos before you start just to make sure. You don’t want to be half way though ironing onto your aisle and realize you need a letter.
    {Step 8)
    Lay out your aisle runner and start laying out and arranging the photos and wording. This needs to be done for spacing.  Otherwise you’ll  run out of space or put all your photos and words in the first 10 feet and have a lot of empty runner.  You’ll need a long hallway or a lot of space so you can lay it out and keep the photos and letters in place.  Or, you may need to pin your photos and words in place if you don’t have the space.  Either way, you’re going to have hours of sitting on the floor ironing :)
    {Step 9}
    Be sure to take the parchment side of the wonder off. Then start ironing!  f you have not used an iron on photo transfers before, be sure to practice on a different piece of fabric.  Once it is ironed onto the aisle runner, it is there permanently.

    Once you’re done ironing, you’re DONE! 
    And hopefully you have something that looks like this…
    DIY personalized aisle runner from Oh Lovely Day
    You know what makes this DIY even sweeter?  They couple included a crossword puzzle in their program, and most of the answers could be found on the aisle runner, so the guests had a fun game to play while they waited for the ceremony, and the inevitably late guests and start, to happen!

    So, which of you brides-to-be out there are going to make this baby?  I’d love to hear.  And if you want to submit a DIY project to me, email photos, a material list, and instructions to me at chandra {at} oh-lovely-day {dot} com or click the little purple envelope at the top right of this page with “DIY submission” in the subject line.  I can’t wait to feature more of your great DIY projects!

    Photos by The Other Sister Photography

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    {It’s in the Details} Honoring Loved Ones

    I know when I was planning my own wedding I struggled with how I could honor and remember my dad, who had died ten years before, without dwelling on it or making it a big thing.  I wanted to remember him in a way that was still in keeping with the spirit of the day (as in, a happy day) but more than a program mention.  I couldn’t find many ideas back then, so I tried to round up some in case any of you brides are having the same problem that I did.

    Carry a photo of them with you:
    For a beach wedding, a lei for those there in spirit, put out to sea:
    Photo by Studio EMP via Found
    {A simple sign}
    Photo by Jessica Lorren via Ruffled
    {A cigar tribute}
    I love that last idea so much.  It is a celebration of that person as well as your day.  If your loved one loved cigars, or wine, or something like that you can incorporate it like this.

    I chose to mention several loved ones who weren’t present at our wedding in our program, but I also had my father’s wedding ring stitched to a hanky that was my grandmother’s and carried it around my bouquet.  That way he was with me as I walked down the aisle.

    If you prefer to do a program mention, I thought this was a lovely way to do it:
    And if you want to display photos of them, but in a more unique way, consider this:
    Photo by Jessamyn Harris (seen before here) via Style Me Pretty
    or this:
    Photo by Gabriel Ryan

    Anyone have any ideas to share on how they honored their deceased loved ones at their wedding?

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    {DIY} 10 DIY Mason Jar Wedding Ideas

    Love mason jars but want a unique way to use them in your wedding?  Here are 10 DIY ways to set yours apart!

    1.  Wrap a ribbon on them (bonus points for making it into a bow tie!),
    throw in a matching straw, and use them for signature cocktails!
    10 DIY Mason Jar Wedding Ideas by Oh Lovely Day
    {Photo by Gabriel Ryan via Joyful Weddings}
    2.  Assign one to each guest for beverages with a chalkboard sign and name tags to give your wedding a laid back feel.
    10 DIY Mason Jar Wedding Ideas by Oh Lovely Day
    {Photo by Wildflowers Photography via Ruffled}
    3.  Turn them into cool luminaries with vintage book pages
    10 DIY Mason Jar Wedding Ideas by Oh Lovely Day
    4.  Or wrap lace around them for vintage luminaries
    10 DIY Mason Jar Wedding Ideas by Oh Lovely Day
    {Photo by LG Weddings via Style Me Pretty}
    5.  Use them for take-home dessert treats
    10 DIY Mason Jar Wedding Ideas by Oh Lovely Day
     6.  Use chalkboard paint to make them escort cards
    10 DIY Mason Jar Wedding Ideas by Oh Lovely Day
    7.  Use them for wedding favors
    10 DIY Mason Jar Wedding Ideas by Oh Lovely Day
    8.   Tie them together for a ‘multiple’ floral container
    10 DIY Mason Jar Wedding Ideas by Oh Lovely Day
    {Photo by Polly Wreford via Dex Knows}
    9.   Spray paint them to make them match your color palette
    (but make sure they aren’t the old and valuable mason jars first!)
    10 DIY Mason Jar Wedding Ideas by Oh Lovely Day
     10.  Wrap twine around to change up the look of floral containers like this:
    10 DIY Mason Jar Wedding Ideas by Oh Lovely Day
    Or this:
    10 DIY Mason Jar Wedding Ideas by Oh Lovely Day
    So which is your favorite?  Do you have any ideas to add to the list?
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